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Skills for Success: What is Collaboration?
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May, 2026
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The Magnetized Man, 2026
Collaboration can feel very difficult, especially if you’re used to trying to do everything on your own or if you’re so focused on saving face that you say yes that you’re able to do everything. In order to collaborate, you need three things: humility, selflessness, and self-knowledge.
You need all three. If you have humility and selflessness, but not self-knowledge, you’ll burn out. If you have humility and self-knowledge, but not selflessness, you run the risk of becoming performative, ego-driven, and self-serving. If you have self-knowledge and selflessness, but not humility, you’ll become an annoying martyr, blinding yourself from seeing people’s natural talents and how they can help you, not in a transactional way, but in a way that’s overflowing. That arises simply from them wanting to be in your presence.
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May 1, 2026 — 6:00 PM ET
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